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Passing Judgment

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New in our "Your Commentary" section, editor Dawn Friedman poses the question: What pushes your judgmental button?

    In her interview with Literary Mama, author Marrit Ingman speaks about the lure of casting a critical eye on other mothers. She says, "It's hard to reason qualitatively when you are tired and you have an infant, and you are making decisions that you think are going to make or break your child as a human being forevermore. We have no idea whether we are successful as parents of very young children except by comparing ourselves to other people."

    Do you find yourself critiquing other mother's choices? What pushes your judgmental button? We want to hear more about what's going on for you when you find yourself shaking your head over another woman's parenting decisions. What makes YOU indulge in other-mother gossip?

Mom-on-mom judgment has proven to be the hot topic in every Mother Talk salon we've done, no matter what we start talking about, and I'm hoping this will spark an interesting conversation here as well. Send in your thoughts on this to Dawn at commentary at literarymama dot com.


Andrea J. Buchanan is a writer living in Philadelphia. In addition to her latest book, The Double-Daring Book For Girls (HarperCollins), she is the author of the New York Times bestselling The Daring Book For Girls, The Pocket Daring Book For Girls: Things To Do, and The Pocket Daring Book For Girls: Wisdom and Wonder along with Miriam Peskowitz. She is also the author of Mother Shock: Loving Every (Other) Minute of It (Seal Press) and the editor of three anthologies: It’s a Boy: Women Writers on Raising Sons; Literary Mama: Reading for the Maternally Inclined; and It’s a Girl: Women Writers on Raising Daughters (all from Seal Press). Before becoming a writer, Andi was a classical pianist; she studied at the Boston Conservatory of Music, where she earned her bachelor of music degree, and continued her graduate studies at the San Francisco Conservatory, earning a master’s degree in piano performance. Her last recital was at Carnegie Hall’s Weill Recital Hall. She is the mother of a daughter and a son, both of whom are equally daring.


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