Check out the latest book by Tamar Chansky....an earlier book of Dr. Chansky's called, "Freeing Your Child From Anxiety" was extremely helpful to my family.
Dr. Chansky says,
"As a child psychologist I know it's one thing to give lip service to the idea that failure is "good" for kids, it is wholly another to know how to contain a child melting in the face of a grade, girlfriend, or race gone wrong. So, in this book I teach parents exactly how to handle themselves and their children when disasters real or imagined hit. Truly, in these high stakes times of college rejections, being cut from little league teams etc, children need to know how to fail successfully so they can persevere and prevail."
Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., has done it again—written another incredibly helpful, practical book. “Freeing Your Child From Negative Thinking” offers specific strategies for parents (or any adult) to use with children and describes variations on these strategies for younger children and older adolescents. Every parent who has a pessimistic, negativistic child should read this book! As parents use the thinking and behavioral strategies that Dr. Chansky recommends, they will undoubtedly find that they themselves are becoming more optimistic and positive, not only toward their child but also more generally in their own lives. I highly recommend this wonderful book.
—Judith S. Beck, Ph.D.