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A guest post to motivate, encourage, and inspire


Making Time


A few years ago I was deep in the mama trenches with my two boys – the oldest four and the youngest on the cusp of his first birthday. Desperately seeking some semblance of myself in the day-to-day chase of life, I blindly decided to try NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month), committing myself to writing and finishing a 50,000 word manuscript in one month. At first, I was exhilarated by the idea. I told friends and family so I couldn’t back out. I set up a space to write. I proudly declared it time for writing as soon as the kids were tucked into bed. I brewed cups of tea and in the warm circle of a desk lamp each November evening I booted up my cranky old laptop and dug in. It felt romantic and crazy and scary and fun.

Image courtesy of National Novel Writing Month

Image courtesy of National Novel Writing Month

And then, about a week and 9,000 words in, reality found me.

The kids were sick. A family member died. My littlest turned one. I caught the bug the kids had. Thanksgiving travel approached. Finding time and motivation to stick with the writing was tough. I often came to the page angry, tired or despairing that I didn’t have anything to say. But I kept coming back. I had to. I’d committed to it. I’d told people. I’d told my kids.

Each and every day, no matter what was happening or how late when I finally sat down to the keyboard, I’d crank out the word count. At some point, I realized the story I was building was seriously flawed and not the story I wanted to tell anymore, but still I pressed on. One day, I discovered characters I didn’t realize I had in me and found hope again. Thirty days later, somehow, I finished.

During NaNoWriMo, I didn’t write the great (or even semi-decent) American novel. What I did do was prove to myself that I could write something from beginning to end. I realized that making time for writing wasn’t a luxury, but a necessity. That most of the time just showing up to the page was enough. That making my writing a priority was something the entire family had to do, not just me. That my creative life is worth nurturing and protecting.

Novembers have come and gone since then without my participation in NaNoWriMo – a new job and elementary school demanded more of my schedule. But I would consider giving it a go again.

As a busy mom, finding quiet moments to write is a challenge. Having any energy left to tap the creative self when I find the time only compounds the challenge. Sometimes it takes a gimmick or a dare or a bet or an insane commitment to get started.

Whatever it takes, it’s worth it. It’s time to make time.


Editor's Note:  Learn more about National Novel Writing Month here. Do you plan to participate? Leave a comment;we'd love to follow up and hear about your success.

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Monica Cox is a mother, recovering public relations executive, and writer at the blog High Heels and High Chairs ( where she chronicles her evolution as a woman, writer and mom. She is currently working on her first novel. Monica lives in Atlanta with her husband and two young boys. Follow her on twitter @highheeledmama.

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