I’d say write for yourself. Don’t worry about trends. Don’t write magazine articles because it’s a rite of passage before you can do a book. Write the thing that you really want to write, and write it in the order that you’re in the mood for.
A lot of parenting, I think (and a lot of being a child, too), can benefit from a sort of expansive boredom—an invitation to seeing. Call it parental loafing, if you will.
We are always parenting on this fine line between giving kids enough structure and letting them make their own decisions. Being exposed to new methods of parenting changed the way I interact with my kids, even Veda, who is just shy of two. The women in the Philippines trusted their process, trusted their family, and trusted their kids. That’s what I try to do, too…
I’m concerned with two risks for my novels. The first is that people will dislike the story and criticize my writing. I’m in for this risk; I’ll take that on. The second risk is that I’m writing about experiences that mirror someone else’s real life. If I get those experiences wrong, will my errors hurt a reader?
Society tells us: Don’t complain too much, mom. If you do, you’ll look like you don’t love your children. You sound like you don’t understand how privileged you are to even be a mother. This message gets internalized. Deeply. Women stop pointing out how difficult it can be to endlessly sacrifice for little growing people. They become superhero moms instead, fighting themselves and each other in a quest for perfection.
I think my comedic voice is a variation on the commentary that’s always running in my head. When I started writing and doing standup, the challenge was to take all that internal weirdness and finesse it into something that might be amusing to normal people: those who aren’t trapped in my brain.
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