We all struggle to find enough time, to come up with good ideas, to stick with a schedule of writing, to battle our inner critic, to manage our expectations, to deal with rejection, to find the emotional energy to revise the same chapter again and again and again before it finally comes out right.
Lisa L. Lewis
All of us have these moments when a friend gets a prize, and you’re happy for your friend and also miserable. I talk in the book about how that reaction isn’t so much about envy or jealousy but about self doubt. At the same time that one shouldn’t act on it—you should be generous with the friend who’s had the success—you shouldn’t beat yourself up for feeling that way.
Rudri Bhatt Patel
It’s very hard to find the right balance between work and motherhood. It often feels as if I’m sacrificing one for the other, and I never know if I’m doing enough for either. I used to worry about it constantly, but now I try to remind myself that I can’t expect to be perfect, and that I’m only human.
But as they are now teenagers, there’s very little I can write about them that doesn’t kind of break that contractual obligation I have to maintain their privacy. So the things I write about are ways of questioning my own parenting, or the way I feel about the kids, without really betraying anything that matters to them.
I feel very fortunate to have chosen the life path that I’m on. My freelance lifestyle allows me a lot of time to do the things that I feel are necessary, in addition to working and teaching. Creating art and hanging out with my children are at the top of the list.
To me, being alive is unbalanced, so the second you’re born, the idea of balance is out the window. How can we possibly try to find balance, at least in the traditional way that we think of it, where things are equally parceled out? People get earaches in the middle of the night. You might not sleep for three days. Snow days happen the week you’re supposed to turn in your novel. Children pee on the rug.
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