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How It Was: A Review of The Mother-to-Mother Postpartum Depression Support Book: Real Stories from Women Who Lived Through It and Recovered
August 19, 2007
By Sandra Poulin (Berkley Books, 2006; $14.00)
Postpartum depression (PPD) afflicts somewhere between 15 and 20 percent of all women who have recently given birth, and yet it is one of the most misunderstood and overlooked illnesses in American society. PPD is thought to be linked to the sharp drop in estrogen, progesterone and cortisol levels after childbirth -- hormonal changes that, in some women, trigger disastrous alterations in the neurotransmitters that govern mood. PPD has been documented in the medical literature for centuries. Yet, our cultural taboo against admitting that motherhood is anything less than unadulterated bliss is so profound that mothers are loathe to talk about it, and knowledge about PPD remains scandalously lacking in the medical profession.
Recent celebrity memoirs have helped bring PPD into the public discourse: singer Marie Osmond told her story in her 2002 book Behind the Smile: My Journey Out of Postpartum Depression, and last year actress Brooke Shields did the same with her book, Down Came the Rain: My Journey Through Postpartum Depression. (Note to file: look up whatever federal law it is that requires all depression books to have "journey" in the subtitle; lobby Congress for change.) But as valuable as these books are, celebrity memoirs can also be alienating. Most of us find it hard to identify too closely with somebody who has riches, fame and a personal makeup assistant. When it comes to having babies, women seem to have a genetically hardwired craving for the company and the stories of women just like ourselves. The American mothers in these stories had to blunder around finding help any old way they could: from a drugstore walk-in clinic, the Internet, a supportive sister or girlfriend or (if they were lucky) a new mothers' group. Many had to overcome the active resistance of their doctors before getting appropriate treatment. Audra, for instance, a 30-year-old mother from New Jersey, suffered from crying fits, insomnia and constant thoughts of hurting herself. She finally saw a therapist when her thoughts turned to hurting her baby. "Big mistake," she wrote. "He grilled me on all my family relationships, drug and alcohol use. After making me feel totally insane, he said I didn't have PPD." Yet, one page later, we hear from Miranda, a 33-year-old Kentucky mother who was planning to kill both herself and her baby son after suffering for four months from sleep deprivation, an inability to eat and thoughts of hurting her baby. A hospital emergency room intern wanted to admit her, but was overruled by Miranda's insurance company, which "didn't think ...[she]...needed it." National health insurance, such as Canada and the United Kingdom have, surely has its limitations, but they can't be any worse than the hopeless jumble of employer-subsidized plans that the U.S. has now. Poulin has organized this book intelligently, in short chapters devoted to the different contexts in which PPD plays out -- PPD whose main feature is anxiety, PPD induced by sleep deprivation, mothers with unsupportive spouses, single mothers, mothers with multiples, etc. Within each chapter are individual stories, and within most stories there are boxed suggestions and thoughts ranging from the practical (get a headset telephone) to the profound ("Feeling guilty is not the same as being guilty"). I was a bit confused by the number of stories from women who were from other countries: while their stories are certainly gripping, the differences in health care and attitudes toward PPD in the United States are so uniquely American -- for better and for worse -- that Poulin runs the risk of devoting a lot of space to information women in this country won't find useful. (How many American women will have the option of contacting the Association for Post-Natal Illness, a British organization?) In other ways, though, Poulin does an admirable job of collecting a diverse socioeconomic group: single mothers, older mothers, mothers of multiples, artists, stay-at-home mothers, high-powered New York magazine editors, nurses, cashiers, speech pathologists. One minor quibble: being from the Deep South myself, I was on the lookout for women from my neck of the woods, and didn't find any. I'm curious as to why, but I don't think their absence affected the overall quality of the book. Another minor quibble was the number of Bible quotes, and the fact that a handful of stories came from a distinctly Christian perspective -- a fact that some readers may find off-putting. The stories told in The Mother-to-Mother Postpartum Depression Support Book are recounted in workaday prose; none of these women are wordsmiths, and nobody tries to be fancy or self-consciously literary here. For me, that was a good thing; reading these vignettes was like reading letters from an old friend, or maybe a sister, just letting you know How It Was. "I would hold my screaming baby and sob, crying as I walked with her," writes one mother; another reports: "Couldn't nap with the baby, couldn't sleep at night, and when I did, I had nightmares." Experiences like those more than speak for themselves. Minor quibbles aside, this is a terrific book, designed by a woman who knows what it's like to have only five minutes at a time to read. But in those five minutes, women who pick up this book are likely to find help, companionship, information (there's an extensive list of resources, websites and phone numbers in the back) and comfort. If you have PPD, and you're not lucky enough to have a beloved mother, sister or girlfriend at your side, The Mother-to-Mother Postpartum Depression Support Book ought to be on your bedside table. And when the day comes that you no longer need it, pass it on to a friend.
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